MANNERS AND MEETINGS OF PROPHET SALLALLAHU ALAIHI WASALLAM

Allah says,
INDEED IN THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH[PBUH] YOU HAVE A GOOD PATTERN (OF CONDUCT) TO FOLLOW.
(Sure Ahzaab ayat 21)
And Verily you(O Muhammad<pbuh>) are on Exalted(standard of)characters.
(Sure Qalam ayat 4).

¤Imaam Hasan radiyallahu anhu says, “I asked my (maternal) uncle Hind ibn Abi Haalah, who
always described the noble features of Rasoolullah sallallahu alaihe wasallam to describe to me
the manner in which Rasoolullah sallallahu alaihe wasallam spoke. He replied that Rasoolullah
sallallahu alaihe wasallam was always worried (about the hereafter). And always busy thinking. Because of these things he was
never free from thought and never rested. He always spoke clearly from beginning to end. (He did not
speak in a manner where only half sentences are spoken and the other half remained in the mind
of the speaker, as is prevalent among snobbish high-minded and proud people). He spoke
concisely, where the words are less and meaning more. Every word was clearer than the previous one. There was no nonsensical talk, nor was there
half-talks’ where the meaning was not complete and could not be grasped. He was not shorttempered,
nor did he disgrace anyone. He always greatly appreciated the blessings of Allah even
though it might be very minute, he did not criticize it.
He did not criticize food, nor over-praised it He was never angered for anything materialistic. (The reason being
that he did not pay much attention, and did not care much about materialistic things).
If someone exceeded the limits in religious matters or against the truth, he became so angry that
no one could endure it, nor could anybody stop it till he avenged it. If for some reason he made a
gesture or pointed at something, he did it with a full hand.
When he was surprised by something he turned his hands, and when he spoke sometimes while
talking, he moved his hands, he sometimes hit the palm of his right hand with the inside part of
his left thumb. When he became angry with someone, he turned his face away from that person,
and did not pay attention to that person or he forgave that person. When he was happy due to
humility it seemed as if he had closed his eyes. The laugh of Rasoolullah sallallahu alaihe
wasallam was mostly a smile, at that moment his mubarak front teeth glittered like white shining
hailstone.

¤Imaam Hasan Radiyallahu’Anhu says, (my younger brother) Husayn said:”I asked my father
(Sayyidina’Ali Radiyallahu’Anhu) about the conduct of Rasulullah Sallallahu’Alayhi Wasallam
in his assemblies’He replied..’Rasulullah Sallallahu’Alayhi Wasallam was always happy and
easy mannered. There was always a smile and a sign of happiness on his blessed face. He was
soft-natured and when the people needed his approval, he easily gave consent. He did not speak
in a harsh tone nor was he stone-hearted. He did not scream while speaking, nor was he rude or
spoke indecently. He did not seek other’s faults. He never overpraised anything nor exceeded in
joking, nor was he a miser. He kept away from undesirable language and did not make as if he
did not hear anything. If he did not agree with the next person’s wish he did not make that person
feel disheartened, nor did he promise anything to that person. He completely kept himself away
from three things: from arguments, pride and senseless utterances. He prohibited people from
three things. He did not disgrace or insult anyone, nor look for the faults of others, he only spoke
that from which thawaab(reward) and reward was attained. When he spoke, those present bowed their
heads in such a manner, as if birds were sitting on their heads. (They did not shift about, as birds
will fly away on the slightest move). When he completed his talks, the others would begin
speaking. (No one would speak while Sayyidina Rasulullah Sallallahu’Alayhi Wasallam spoke.
Whatever one wanted to say, it would be said after he had completed speaking). They did not
argue before him regarding anything. Whenever one spoke to him the other would keep quiet and
listen till he would finish. The speech of every person was as if the first person was speaking.
(They gave attention to what every person said. It was not as is generally found that in the
beginning people pay full attention, and if the talk is lengthened they became bored, and begin to
pay less attention). When all laughed for something, he would laugh too. The things that
surprised the people, he would also show his surprise regarding that. (He would not sit quietly
and keep himself aloof from everyone, but made himself part of the gathering). He exercised
patience at the harshness and indecent questions of a traveller. (Villagers usually ask irrelevant
questions. They do not show courtesy and ask all types of questions. Sayyidina Rasulullah
Sallallahu’Alayhi Wasallam did not reprimand them but exercised patience). The Sahaabah
would bring travellers to his assemblies (so that they themselves could benefit from the various
types of questions asked by these people, and also hear some questions regarding which they
themselves, due to etiquette, would not ask). Rasulullah Sallallahu’Alayhi Wasallam’would say:
‘When you see a person in need, then always’help that person’. If someone praised him, he
would detest it. If someone, by way of thanks praised him, he would remain silent, (or one did not exceed in praising him, he would
keep silent’). He did not interrupt someone
talking and did not begin speaking when someone else was busy speaking. If one exceeded the
limits he would stop him or would get up and leave (so that that person would stop)”.

¤Imaam Hasan bin’Ali Radiyallahu’Anhu found that Husayn (Radiyallahu’Anhu) had asked our father (‘Ali Radiyallahu’Anhu) about Rasulullah Sallallahu’Alayhi
‘Wasallam entering and coming out of the house. He did not leave out anything about the ways
and manners of Rasulullah Sallallahu’Alayhi Wasallam. Imaam Husayn Radiyallahu’Anhu said:
‘I asked my father regarding the manner in which Rasulullah Sallallahu’Alayhi Wasallam
entered the house?’He replied:’When Rasulullah Sallallahu’Alayhi Wasallam entered the house
he distributed his time into three portions; He spent a portion for Allah. (In devotion, performing
salaah etc.); A portion towards his family (fulfilling their duties. i.e. laughing, speaking,
enquiring about their welfare etc.); and a portion for himself (resting etc.). He distributed his
personal portion in two, one for himself and one for the people, in such a manner that the near
one’s among the Sahaabah Radiyallahu’Anhum came to visit him. Through these Sahaabah
Radiyallahu’Anhum he conveyed messages to the people. He did not conceal anything from
them. From the portion of the unimah he adopted this method, that he gave preference to the
Ahlul-Fadl (i.e. people of’ilm and’amal). He distributed this time according to their religious
fadl. From among those who came, some had one requirement, some had two requirements, and
some had many requirements. Rasulullah Sallallahu’Alayhi Wasallam fulfilled all their
requirements. He busied them in things that benefited them and the entire ummah. When they
questioned Rasulullah Sallallahu’Alayhi Wasallam on religious matters, he replied to them in a
manner that benefited them. He used to say:’Those that are present, should inform those that are
not present regarding these beneficial and necessary matters’. He also used to say:’Those people
who for some reason (purdah, distance, shyness or awe) cannot put forward their requirements,
you should inform me about their requirements, because, that person who informs a king of the
need of another, who is unable to put forward that need, Allah Ta’aala will keep that person stead
fast on the day of qiyaamah’. Only important and beneficial matters were discussed in his
gathering. He happily listened to these matters from the Sahaabah Radiyallahu’Anhum. Besides
this there was no wasteful or non-beneficial talks in his assemblies. The Sahaabah Radiyallahu
‘Anhum came to the assemblies of Rasulullah Sallallahu’Alayhi Wasallam for their religious
needs, they did not depart before tasting something (by tasting, may be meant the acquiring of
religious knowledge). The Sahaabah Radiyallahu’Anhum returned from his
assemblies as torch bearers of hidayah and goodness. (They spread. these teachings amongst
others). Imaam Husayn Radiyallahu’Anhu says:’I asked (my father) regarding the coming out of
Rasulullah Sallallahu’Alayhi Wasallam from the house’. He replied:’Rasulullah Sallallahu
‘Alayhi Wasallam controlled his tongue and only spoke that which was necessary. He did not
waste his time in useless conversations. He made those who came to visit him feel at home he
did not make them feel scared or ill at ease. (i.e. When advising them, he did not scold them in a
manner that they become scared, or tell them such things that would keep them away from the
deen). He respected and honoured the respected ones of every nation. He also chose a leader for
them. He warned the people of Allah’s punishrnent (or he emphasised that the people be
cautious*). He also protected himself from troubling or harming people. Besides being cautious
and commanding others to be cautious, he never lacked in courtesy towards others. He was
concerned for the affairs of his friends, made himself aware about the relationships between
them and rectified their faults. He praised good deeds and encouraged them. He explained the
harmful effects of bad things and removed and stopped these. He followed the middle path in all
matters. (He did not at times say this and at other times that). He did not neglect the guiding of
people, it is possible that they became unmindful of their religious duties, or exceeded in a matter
resulting in them becoming disheartened. For everything there was a special arrangement .He did
not fall back in the truth, nor did he exceed the limits in this.
Those who attended his gatherings were the best of people. The best person in the eyes of
Sayyidina Rasulullah Sallallahu’Alayhi Wasallam was the one who wished everybody well. The
one with the highest status in the eyes of Sayyidina Rasulullah Sallallahu’Alayhi Wasallam was
that person who considered, comforted and helped the creation the most’. Sayyidina Imaam
Husayn Radiyallahu’Anhu says:’I then enquired from him regarding the assemblies of Sayyidina
Rasulullah Sallallahu Wasallam’. He replied:’He began and ended all his sitting with the dhikr of
Allah. When he went to a place, he sat where he found a place, and also instructed the people to
do so. They should not leap over peoples heads and go ahead. It is a different matter, that where
Sayyidina Rasulullah Sallallahu’Alayhi Wasallam sat, that place became the focal point of the
gathering. Sayyidina Rasulullah Sallallahu’Alayhi Wasallam fulfilled the rights of every person
present. That means, whatever right was due in talking and showing happiness, was fulfilled by
him, so much so, that every person present would think that Sayyidina Rasulullah Sallallahu
‘Alayhi Wasallam is honouring me the most. The person that came to sit by Sayyidina Rasulullah
Sallallahu’Alayhi Wasallam or came to him for some purpose, Sayyidina Rasulullah Sallallahu
‘Alayhi Wasallam would remain seated till that person began to stand up. Whenever one asked
him for something, he kindly fulfilled that request, and did not refuse it, (if he did not possess the
thing) he would give a soft and humble answer. His cheerfulness and pleasant manner were for
everybody. He was like a father to them. The whole creation was equal before him as far as
rights were concerned. His gatherings were the gatherings of knowledge, modesty, patience and
honesty. (i.e. These four things were attained there or are a description of his gatherings). Voices
were not raised therein, nor was anyone degraded or disgraced. If anyone committed a fault, it
was not made known publicly. All were regarded as equals amongst themselves. (A person was
not regarded according to his lineage or genealogy). The virtues of one over the other was
according to the taqwa (piety) possessed. The small ones were loved. The needy were given
preference. Strangers and travellers were cared for’.
[COLLECTION OF AHADIS FROM SHAMAIL TIRMIZI]
FBS

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